Just the life of any other Rachel

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Something quick, before the boy awakens

I didn't realize how long it had been since I'd blogged.

Potty training it going pretty well.  Still no poo in the potty, but he's doing well with peeing.  Instead of waiting for him to tell me he needs to pee, I take him ever 45-60 minutes.  I realized that if I wait for him to tell me he needs to pee, it's an immediate need.  But we go out in undies or training pants, and he sleeps in pull ups.

I think he's nearly given up on naps.  But a miracle occurred yesterday and he napped for almost 2 hours.  Ahh.  Sweet relief.

I finished the Bikini Body Mommy challenge.  Not much changed, except I'm stronger.  But my measurements, and weight didn't change.  Brianon and I are going to do a month of yoga, then choose what to do next.  It's nice to have a buddy.

I've been going to the track 4ish days a week.  I want to be a runner.  I don't think I'm a runner, but I'm hoping I can become one.

Aaron doesn't like his job.  We both love the benefits and hours.  The pay is ok.  But he doesn't like the work.  It's not challenging, and he is bored a lot of the time (such is governmental work, I guess).  He's been looking for other things within the county, and had some interviews, but no luck yet.  I know he'll find something he likes better soon, but I feel bad for him in the meantime.  And I feel guilty, a major reason he took this job is the health care (top tier coverage, and it's practically free).  The reason that is an issue is me.  Crohns is expensive.  So I feel responsible for his work misery.  But this too shall pass.

Boy is awake.  More later, perhaps.

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Night time now.  I have the Olympics on, but I'm not really watching it.

I've had a lot of dental visits lately.  Fillings to get done.  Last week I went to get a filling repaired, but ended up having a pretty deep cavity filled.  The dentist thought I might need a root canal, but everything looks ok so far.  But then I started having pain on a different tooth (one I had filled about a month ago).  He told me to order a special European tooth paste, and see if it helps.  I did two day shipping, but it's one of those where two days, doesn't mean two days.  It is feeling a little better, even without special tooth paste.

We had our first family home evening (FHE) tonight.  I made cupcakes that only turned out ok.  (They tasted fine, but didn't have the texture you want).  And Aaron did the "lesson", which was showing Bertie pictures, and talking about Jesus for a minute.  

Oh.  Bertram pooped in the potty today!  He said he needed to pee.  So I rushed him over to his little potty.  He sat for a minute, then popped up.  And there it was.  I made a bfd about it (because it is a bfd), and he got two dum-dums.  So hopefully he'll be encouraged for the future.

He had gymnastics today.  It was the first day he participated, and didn't run for the door every time I put him down.  But he spent a lot of time just laying on the mat.  I'll take it as a win.

Friday, July 29, 2016

On Potty Training, and Worth

Today is day 3 off potty training.  Day 1 was awful.  Mostly he got to the potty, but there were some accidents, of course.  The best thing about day 1 was that he pooped in his potty without any prompting.  I'd read about several different methods and went with a "Potty Training in 3 Days" one.

The one I was going to use is very strict.  You throw all the diapers away on day one.  (We use cloth, so I didn't do that).  You put the kid in underwear and only have their potty in the bathroom.  Then you say "Tell mommy when you have to go potty" about every 10 seconds.  When you see they start to pee, you whisk them off to finish on the potty.  You stay by their side EVERY SECOND.  Then praise them all the time.  At nap you tell them to call for you when they need to pee.  Then for night time, you stop liquids 3 hours before bed time.  Then wake them after they've been asleep for an hour, and once again in the middle of the night.

So I started with that one, but I modified it.  I have two potties, one in the living room, and another nearby.  And I started him naked.  He mostly got to the potty.  But rushing him there once he's started was not an option, as the flood gates opened.  Bertram is a very independent child, he likes playing by himself, and wasn't happy that I was glued to his side, asking him to tell me when he needed to go.  He also wanted to dump the pee in the toilet every time.  But he got a little too excited some times, and threw it all over the place.  Nap time was non-existent.  He called me into his room at least 5 times, he did pee a few of those times.  But in the end, didn't nap, and wet the bed.  After "nap time" I put him in underwear.  That was a huge failure.  I think he equates underwear to diapers, so he peed in them constantly, which was a much bigger mess.  I had already decided after this first day that this plan was not going to work for us.  The thought of waking Bertie up AN HOUR after he fell asleep would be awful, because he's not likely to go back to sleep, and he would be in a foul mood (same for waking him in the middle of the night).  I put him in a diaper for bed.
Day 2 was much better.  He made it to the potty all but one time.  He was start to dribble pee, and tell me, then I'd tell him to run to the potty and finish, which he did.  He stayed dry in a pair of underwear for an hour or so.  Day 2 was 80% better than day one.
Today is day 3.  No pee accidents so far.  He's pooped a few times (I think because he didn't sit long enough).  Two times, he was grabbing at his bum, and I could see the poop had already started.  So he made it in time.  One time he was standing in the chair at the table, and just pooped.  I scooped him up and set him on his potty and told him to wait while I cleaned.  While he was sitting he pooped a little more.  But he did a 45 minute visit to his grandparents without incident.
I told Aaron maybe once he has a decent handle on it, then maybe we can try the 3 day blitz.  But at this point, we will likely have to take him to church in a diaper.

Today is day 75 (out of 90) of the Bikini Body Mommy Challenge.  I was feeling a little disappointed.  My weight has not changed much and my measurements are relatively stagnant too. That gets me down, of course, because it feel like a lot of work going unrewarded.  Which isn't true, of course.  I am getting stronger, and the numbers on my fit test show it.  So I think about my body.  I though I was fat at 160 before I got pregnant (as the weight I used to sit at was around 143).  But here I am, 3 years after conception and still at 180, a size 14 (when I used to be a 10).  Then I think about my worth.  Am I worth any less at 180 lbs?  Am I a worse mother, wife, sister, Christian, or daughter? Is there anything I can't do now, that I could do 40 lbs lighter?  (Aside from wearing pre-pregnancy clothes?)  No.  My body conceived a child (something I wasn't sure it could do).  My body kept that baby safe, and healthy as he grew.  By body nourished that little boy for 18 months, and he thrived.  So, weight and sizes are numbers, but there are better things to be concerned with.

Monday, July 25, 2016

The Whole30 lasted 6 days.  I cheated a little most days.  But it started to really mess with my stomach, in a crohns sort of way.  So I stopped.  We had pizza for dinner tonight.  So long Whole30.

I'm going to start potty training Bertie in earnest on Wednesday.  I was nervous, but he's actually been doing really well.  He's peed in his little potty a few times.  Today he wanted to use it before we left for the store.  He did.  It was nap time when we got home, so I went to change him before he went to bed.  He asked to use the potty again, he peed.  Then I noticed his diaper was dry!  So he stayed dry for the 90 minutes we were out and about.  He didn't nap, and went to play with his grandparents. I did laundry and mopped the kitchen.  He had been playing in the paddle pool and came home sopping.  So I stripped him down, and asked if he wanted to use the potty, he said yes.  I turned on Nemo for him.  And he peed again.  He is so proud of himself, it's very cute.  He was naked from about 4 until 6 (when he got in the tub), he refused undies and diapers.  He went potty several times, without me asking.  And he didn't have any accidents.  So maybe potty training won't be too bad.  He's a month away from two-and-a-half.  Fingers crossed.  (It would be so nice to not have to wash diapers).

On Saturday I chopped off all of my hair.  It was long enough to donate to Wigs for Kids.  Now I have a pixie that is blue.  I'm still getting used to it, but mostly I love it.


Thursday, July 21, 2016

The Whole30, and the whole other stuff

Bertie finished swimming lessons today.  We did 8 lessons through parks and rec.  He loved it.  He is more independent than he should be.  He is over-confident of his abilities.  Which is a little scary, but he's not afraid, which is good.  He's not actually able to swim, but we have some good foundation stuff (blowing bubbles, wall crawl, tummy floating, kicking etc).  Next week we're starting a tumbling class.  I somehow, stupidly signed up for a class at nap time, but it's only once a week.

I got a new bible.  The bible my church uses is KJV.  And, in all honestly, I don't like KJV.  It's too hard to understand.  So my mom bought me the NIV Once a Day Bible for Women.  It has daily readings from the old testament, new testament, and psalms.  I'm enjoying it.  I'm trying to read the book of mormon daily too.

I think I'm cutting all my hair off on Saturday.  Time will tell.

I'm on day 3 of the Whole30.  I hate it.  It's hard, and I hate it.  And today I cheated a little.  I had a diet coke, and a bacon cheeseburger from Wendys without the bun.  (Cheese is a no-no, and I'd guess their mayo is non-compliant).  But I think I'll try to finish out the 30 days.  But I'll need to adjust a little here and there, otherwise it;s not going to work.  Eating that many eggs is hard.  I have a hard time eating as much protein as is required.  I made myself chia puddings for breakfast.  This morning I tried a sweet potato and fruit thingy.  I don't like sweet potatoes enough.

I've been tired lately, been going to sleep before 10 most nights.

I met my new GI last week.  I like him a lot.  He ordered some vaccines for me.  Hep A&B, meningitis, and pneumonia.  One of them hurt a lot, but I have no clue which.  I'm pretty excited though.  I like having extra protection, especially since Humira makes me immeunosuppressed.

Sunday, July 10, 2016

Not much

Not too much is going on.  I feel like I've been floating along.

I got a filing last week, it wasn't too bad. Especially since I hate going to the dentist.  I have three more sessions in August, since my cavities are all over the place.

I've been eating like crap, but keeping up the exercise.  So I'm not feeling too bad.

I've been having some insomnia.  Mostly waking up and not going back to sleep.  I don't mind this much though, I like being up early, and I get tons done.

I had to get four new tires on Friday.  That sucked, tires are expensive, and we don't have a lot of money. I should probably see if I can find a job that might work.  I kind of miss working, but I kind of like being home all the time.

Bertie has been a handful,  But I think he always is.  He is a good kid, and I love being with him.  He works on my patience though.  On Thursday I took him to Happy Hollow.  He is just barely talk enough to ride all the rides.  He decided he wanted to go on the roller coaster. It's a small one, but big for him.  So we rode on it, and as it started he said he wanted to get off.  He wasn't happy on it, but he didn't cry.  Once it stopped and we got off, he said he wanted to go again.  We didn't though.  The other ride he went on was the little train that goes around the park.  So he went on the scariest ride, and the least scary.  But he refused to go on anything in between.  Funny guy.  We have a season pass, so we'll go again in a couple weeks.

Bertram starts swimming lessons tomorrow.  It's mommy and me.  I love swimming, and he likes the water, so fingers crossed, it will go well.  After that we're doing a gymnastics class.  Swimming is a necessity, but we'll do other things to see what he likes.  I asked a lady at church about piano lessons (she's a piano teacher), she said she doesn't start teaching kids til 4-5.  So we'll have some time on that.


Tuesday, June 21, 2016

Vacation etc

The trip to Virginia was somewhat awful.  We left SFO on time at 1pm.  We flew to Charlotte, NC.  But when our plane arrived, the airport was closed due to a huge storm.  So we circled around in the air for 45 minutes.  Then we were finally cleared to land, but because no one could move during the storm, there was a huge cluster-fuck of planes clamoring for gates.  So we sat on the tarmac for another 45+ minutes.  Some of the passengers were getting rude, because it was totally the flight attendants fault (eye roll).  We had been checking our flight to Richmond and it had been delayed (as all the flights had), but it wasn't delayed long enough.  Even if we had landed before it left, it was across the airport from where we came in.  Aaron talked to a gate agent, who confirmed the flight had left.  We had two options (I think it was 11:30pm at this point) either try to get on a flight to Norfolk (about 90 minutes away from my mom's house), or wait til 7:30 the next morning.  I made the unilateral decision that we would go to Norfolk.  If we didn't have Bertie, I would have said we could spend the night in the airport.  But we would need to find a hotel, a way there, spend money, likely have Bertie not sleep, not have our clothes, possibly run out of diapers, etc.  The plane to Norfolk was already boarding, but was only 10 gates away, so we ran, and got there.  In total, we spent 10 minutes in the actual airport.  (I should mention was Bertie was great.  He slept a bit, and was overall a good traveler).  We got into Norfolk around 1am.  Our suitcases, of course, didn't show up.  We talked to the American Airlines agents, and they said they would show up at Richmond on the next flight (8:30 the next morning).  Then we waited.  It was close to 2 before my mom and stepdad got there (even with him speeding some).  Aaron was unhappy, Bertie was having fun running around the abandoned baggage claim.  Bertie fell asleep in the car on the way to their house.  We arrived at 3:30am.  Bertram refused to sleep in him crib, so we put him in bed with us.  But he didn't sleep.  I took him out of bed close to 4:30, and we went downstairs.  I couldn't get the cable to work.  Around 5 we walked across the yard to the other house.  (My mom and stepdad were originally neighbours.  She moved into his house, and my older sister lives in what was my mom's house).  We turned on the tv, and watched cartoons.  I was exhausted, of course, but Bertie was going strong.  I think my mom and stepdad got up around 5:45.  I think around 8:30 (24 hours awake), I went back to the first house (where Aaron, and my dad (who had arrived a little before we did, and why my mom was so late getting to Norfolk) were sleeping).  I crashed for 2.5 hours.  Bertie finally fell asleep at 9:30 and slept til 12:30.

My mom bought a crib to replace her pack n play.  After the Florida Incident I told her the pack n play was not going to cut it.  That night we went to put him to bed, and the crib mattress was a little high.  He started panicking, and promptly fell out of the crib.  So after lowering it, Aaron and I camped out on the floor until he fell asleep.  After a couple nights of this, I got permission from his pediatrician to give him melatonin and benedryl.  That is like a roofie for babies!  He went to bed so easily.  We did that for 2 nights (as recommended), and then didn't have issue after that.

My little sister was sharing the room with Bertie.  She was staying over for the week prior to her wedding, so she and I could spend time together and also to get wedding stuff done.  The night before her wedding, she and Aaron swapped, and she slept with me, and he slept in Bertie's room.

The day after we arrived, my mom's friend Genie arrived (she lives in CA too, but more central than we do).  She is a level one badass.  She gets things done, and is a wedding expert.  Plus she's fun and funny.

On Thursday night there was a huge storm.  Lots of thunder, lightning and wind.  It seemed like a bad storm, but not terrible.  We didn't lose power, but the cable/internet went out.  We drove around the next morning to run wedding errands, and found lots of places had no power, roads were closed due to downed trees, and there was some flooding.  Yet, somehow, everything for the wedding was ok.  The venue didn't lose power, and didn't have any tree damage.  Her caterers ran on generators to make the food.  The hair salon had no power, but came to the venue for styling.  And the nail salon still had power.  (Many places only got power back yesterday).

The wedding was beautiful.  I cried like a baby.  My mom cried, my dad cried, the groom cried.  It was a moving day.  It wasn't too hot, it didn't rain, no one got too drunk.  Unfortunately, we had to leave before anything too fun happened, because we have a two-year-old.  We left after dinner, but missed the toasts, dancing, cake, and sparkler send off.  I got to read my dad's toast, it was awesome.

Now my sister and brother in law are in Aruba.  It's weird because it'll be the longest I've gone without talking to her.

Aaron and Genie went home this morning (on the same flight).  My dad goes home tomorrow mid-day.  Bertie and I have til next Tuesday.

I want to say I love how my family gets along.  My mom and dad get along way better now.  And my dad and stepdad get along too.  My dad said (more than once) that he didn't realized how much he missed talking with my mom's mom.  

Saturday, June 4, 2016

Catching up a bit

I'm starting a new calling at church tomorrow: Primary Secretary.  I agreed to it before I realized how much work was involved. I'm pretty nervous, because it seems like a lot of responsibility.  Plus, I don't like other people's kids very much. I guess we'll see how it goes.

Today Bertram asked me to paint his toenails.  I obliged, of course.  He chose blue, which is good because I had a quick dry blue.  It looks really cute, and he's happy.

I've been taking Wellbutrin in addition to Celexa.  It has really been helping a lot.  Also (a little TMI coming up), I don't think I want to go back on the pill after my next pregnancy (whenever that is).  The pill really zapped my sex drive (even though it was the mini pill).  But after I thought about it, it seems like most of the hormonal birth control I've tried over the years (different pills, the patch, and depo) have all done that.  So I guess I'll have to see what my options are when the time comes.

On to a related topic, pregnancy.  It's no secret that we've started trying again.  (And I mean actually trying, keeping a calendar of my cycle).  And my period was six days late.  In that six days, I took three pregnancy tests, all negative.  Then I got my period today.  I was pretty bummed, though, after all the negative tests I was expecting it.  I did a little reading about Wellbutrin, and it seems that a few other female users experienced late periods as well.  It's not a common side effect, but I guess it does happen.

Bertram is doing a couple programs with the library.  1000 books before kindergarten and the summer reading program.  1000 books gives you a little notebook, and you list all the books you read.  We started on April 7th, and we're currently up to 492 books.  They aren't all different books, I'm sure some are on the list close to 20 times, but that's ok.  The little note in the front of the notebook implies that it generally takes 1-3 years to complete.  We're speeding along, and I'd guess we'll be done within 3 months.  When we finish, he gets a kit of school supplies, and he can have his picture up on the wall.  I just signed him up for the summer reading program today.  With that one, you keep track of how many minutes you read each day, and minutes give you points, which I think add up to prizes.  Then there are things you can do to get extra points: reading outside, going to a museum, storytime at the library, etc.  I think it should be fun.  I was looking at the summer activity guide for the library, and there is a lot of good (and free) stuff coming up.  I'm going to sign him up for a couple of classes too.  Swimming, and either dance or gymnastics.